Incapable of Authentic Relationships
Just by virtue of their disordered brains, narcissistic sociopaths aren’t capable of having authentic relationships…with anyone! Having a relationship requires authenticity, empathy, and a conscience–Things that narcissistic sociopaths, by their very natures, are missing!
So, what do you call that thing you thought was a relationship? I wondered the same thing after finding out about my husband’s deceit. If it wasn’t a relationship, what was it that I just experienced?
I’ll tell you! It was a fraudulent (fake) relationship or a fraudulationship.
A fraudulationship is fake relationship that you were duped into thinking was based on love, trust, and mutual goodwill but from the start was actually based on lies, deceit and manipulation.
Meg South
Your Feelings Were Real
This doesn’t mean in any way that your feelings weren’t real. The love you felt was real. But it wasn’t reciprocated in the way you thought. You thought you were in a regular relationship. But you weren’t. Not even close.
And once you find that out, a couple of things happen: all those weird things your intuition kept calling to your attention…those things simultaneously click into place and make sense… and your world flips upside down.
It will take a while for your world to right itself again. But over time, the confusion will clear up, you will discover strength you didn’t know you had, and you will build a better life for yourself.
Reach Out
So let’s go! I. See. YOU. I hold space for your pain. I hold space for your grief. I hold space for your hope for better days–even if you’re hoping against hope. You CAN find yourself again. You CAN land on your feet. I won’t promise you a straight-line roses-and-sunshine recovery but I WILL promise that you DO have it in you to FEEL BETTER! You don’t have to do it alone. We’ll walk the path together…when it’s easy and when it’s hard. Together.
These aren’t just pretty words. I mean them from the depths of my soul. I’ve been where you are and reclaiming yourself after you’ve been in the clutches of a narcissist or sociopath is no small feat. It’s much easier with someone in your corner. If you’re feeling stuck, reach out for support. No matter what stage you’re at…whether you’re just planning to leave or you’ve already gone. Reach out. If not to me, then someone else. But reach out. You’ll feel much better much more quickly if you don’t try to go it alone.
I invite you to be a founding member of the Fraudulationship to Freedom Facebook group.
You can also find me actively participating on Debbie Mirza’s Facebook group Healing After Experiencing Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissism
To speak directly with me, use Facebook chat button on the home page or the booking link to schedule a call just to chat. Don’t worry about the cost. Your first 50 minute call is free. I’m happy to discuss your situation and help if I can.
~ Meg